One minute you feel motivated, the next not so much. You want to, you don’t want to. Do you ever hear yourself say:
• I want to be in good shape and I don’t like to exercise.
• I want to lose weight and I don’t want to stop eating my favorite foods.
If you can relate to these thoughts you may be feeling ambivalent or unsure about making changes. Ambivalence is a normal part of preparing for change. These ambivalent statements signal conflicting beliefs, desires and behaviors. Acknowledging and working with these conflicts make change more likely. If you can resolve ambivalence you can dramatically increase your success with making a positive change.
To assist you in moving from ambivalence to determination I have compiled some questions for you to consider. Find a quiet moment and take your time with this. Ask yourself these questions and explore your answers without judgment.
What worries you about your current situation?
What do you see as problematic about your _____(weight, health, fitness)?
How would you like your life to be five years from now?
Why would you like to make a change?
What do you feel like you need?
How ready are you to make this change?
What are the three best reasons for you to do it?
What encourages you that you can change if you want to?
How important is it for you to make this change and why?
How might you go about it in order to succeed?
What would you be willing to try (intention) or what do you think you might do?
So what do you think you’ll do?